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So much light, love, and care to you, Becky. Also immense recognition for you, your journey, your continuous becoming.

I'd be tempted to go back in my own time machine. But, also, I know the wisdom in your words and am grateful that I don't have the option. Here's to all that makes us. ❤️

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Same but different 🫶🏼

It makes me think of resilience which I've had a pretty difficult relationship with. It's handed out like a reward for getting through bad stuff, in one piece but I know it's necessary in order to survive and thrive.

I wouldn't change anything that has happened but I would perhaps wish to revisit how I dealt with, accepted or not and perhaps wish to change speaking up and out then so it wasn't even more things to carry alone and which only compounded that I was the problem.

*But*... In the end, all things come and go when they need to. I do believe that (even though some stuff truly sucks and could go quicker!)

I'm very glad to hear your realisation and the compassion you're giving yourself in this. ❤️

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Thank you for sharing this. All the bad and the good make us who we are, don't they? ❤️

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Jan 30Liked by Becky Handley

I LOVE THIS! I have always thought that it is my worst moments that made me the beautiful human I am today! My first piece on Substack said exactly this!

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Jan 28Liked by Becky Handley

I really enjoyed reading this. I think that is such a hard question to answer. Of course there are things in my past I wish would've gone different, but I appreciate how you acknowledge the consequence of it possibly changing the good things you have in your life presently. I try and think of that in regards to my marriage...I wish I would've left sooner however, I wouldn't have my kids. Although it's healthy (I think) to want to change things in our past I think a lot of people respond with "be grateful for this or that..." And it dismisses our feelings; or the response of it "making you stronger". Whatever trauma we endured it doesn't mean we deserved it or that we had to go through it in order to be a stronger person. Maybe looking back (whether we wish to change it or not) is a coping mechanism and helps us move through it, processing it.

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